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Linton Bergsen 00:00

Welcome to the Self Realized podcast with Linton Bergsen, where you will shatter your limits. I am not much into the Self Help industry as much as I am into the Self Realized individual, which is you, what matters most to you, how you get there, and the obstacles that may be in your way. If you'd like to be part of this podcast and part of that discussion, I welcome you here with an open heart, open mind and open arms. So, without further ado, let's get on with the podcast.

Linton Bergsen 00:44

A very warm welcome to the Selfealized podcast, shatter your limits. I am Linton Bergsen. The topic today is What Matters Most to You. And that's a fairly broad topic. And I will be sharing with you some techniques, I've worked with Fortune 500 companies and individuals that have brought about some very profound changes in the organizations and their lives. Some of these techniques obviously may not work for you, I hope they will. But I'll share that with you upfront, because they are not the run of the mill, same techniques that many people have shared with those organizations or individuals over a period of time. And one of the things I like to share, I've opened up all my presentations with this statement. I will start today with a statement that I've shared with them. I hope it works for you, is listening to this podcast and future podcasts. Don't pay any attention going forward to anything that you've read, or anything anyone may have told you or said to you, that you have in your mind right now that is going to be a background soundtrack to what is being presented today. Create a blank slate, make a conscious effort to create a blank slate in your mind today. So that you can focus and concentrate on this message. And hopefully it can work for you on a very deep subconscious level, as well as conscious level. But that is not possible unless you eradicate any background noise of what someone may have said to you, is important to you, or something you read in a book. Books are useful. I'm not saying they're not. But when we use the book as a reference point for our lives, to create conditioning, and influence us to believe that things matter most to us when they really don't. Or someone said to us what should matter to us, the school we go to the career we should have, who we should marry. And we make that the premise of our decision-making process, we are in trouble. Because what matters most to you does not come from a book. It does not come from an individual, it comes from you. And you need to own that. Trust your own gut. Trust your own instincts, trust who you are as a being that you know what matters most for you in every area of your life. And if you can own that space within yourself, and gather all of your senses, inwardly and outwardly. To understand the depth of having that as a foundation of your life, in every area of your life, your life changes. Because what is communicating to you. What matters most to you, is profound. There is something that is communicating to you. You can call it your gut level. You can call it intuition. You can call it whatever you like. But we all have it, there is no denying it, we can put it aside and say oh, that's my imagination well maybe it is. But at least give it the opportunity to have a voice. Give it the opportunity to at least talk to you just a little bit. If someone says to you, well, you will be good at this. Don't you think maybe you want to think to yourself really? Would I? Or do you just go along with it because it's their suggestion.

Linton Bergsen 04:09

What matters most to you is what fulfills you inwardly first, in my suggestion, and outwardly second. If you use that point of reference of going inwardly, to access that point of that gut feeling, that sense of purpose, that sense of well-being from what you're pursuing, and where you're going in your life from your own self-examination, and values, and how you want your life to look. You are now in ownership of what matters most to you. You cannot be in ownership of what matters most to anybody else. I've read things. I've listened to other people, but I've taken that as information. There's a difference between information and knowledge. And it is my sincere suggestion that you learn to differentiate between the two. Knowledge is Know-ledge, know which ledge you want to jump off of. That's how I take knowledge. Because I know myself, which ledge I want to be on, and how it looks when I'm standing on that ledge. And whether I am prepared to jump off it or not. Information is just what people give to me or I read somewhere, it's information. Now I can decide what information I choose to use, and put into practice in my life, and have that as an outcome and what information I choose to discard. And you can look at information from the perspective of I can experiment with it to see what has value, and then have the knowledge for myself, by using it and experimenting with that information that is in alignment with what resonates with me. Now, when you look at knowledge, and what matters most to you, you're really looking at the resonance that things have with you, that matter to you that are alignment with your values, that will put you in a place where you sit within yourself from a place of innate power, knowledge, internal knowledge, of being able to say, I want to do this with my life, and I'm not going to let anybody else influence that. Because what resonates with me may not resonate with other people. What resonates with what my family thinks I need to do, who I need to marry, what I need to look like to them, is not how I need to look like to me. And in that compromise of losing oneself in that dilemma of what does it look to society? What does it look to my family? What does it look like to my coworkers, where's my sense of belonging? How am I really going to put my life together, we stand alone. And we can be alright with that in our own power. And knowledge, it really is standing alone within one's own power. Knowing the external circumstances and what we're told to believe, really are not part of us. There are external forces acting on us knowledge of ourselves is internal forces, guiding us from a sense of purpose given to us from an intuitive sense, an inner sense of our own well-being that may be in contradiction to what other people may have us choose to believe. Now, that may sound a little bit complicated. But if you were to really think about that, and digest that for a second with an open mind,

Linton Bergsen 08:07

my sincere wish for you, or belief is that you will come to the conclusion that the only thing that matters for you is what matters most to you from your inner guidance, your sense of self, and who you are. That takes courage. And that authenticity is your power. Because you were born to be an individual, you were not created like anybody else. So, by default, by default, you are able to express what no one else can thereby anyone's influence on you, suggesting to you what you need to do, may be a blueprint that they are trying to project on you. Because the truth really is for you. No one can tell you what to do. Because there's only one you, only you can. That's really what matters most to you comes into its own power. If you really sat down for a moment, quiet moment, and you made a list of things of what matters most to you in many areas of your life, because not just one area because you can go on Google and you can type in Wheel of Life. Very simple. Just type it in. And you'll see that when you type in Wheel of Life that there are many Wheels of Life that come up that you can either print out and look at and apply certain things from those Wheels of Life that resonate with you. And I'm very big on this word resonate because when something resonates, and really doesn't have a reason why it does, right. We have certain songs, certain people, certain places that resonate with us, and that's because we are in alignment with it. And that alignment allows us to know that there's something right about what we're feeling as much as when we don't resonate, it's saying we don't feel something right about what's going on our life. So, when you print out the Wheel of Life that you've chosen, because as I've mentioned, the different ones there, you will see that Wheel of Life has different aspects to it. It's circular. And it's circular with different suggestions in it, of what may matter to you, what matters most to you, in the environment, in your personal development, in your health, in your family, your social and friends, your love and romance, your career, your finance, your fun and recreation. So, you have all these different areas, that my suggestion is that you would look as to what resonates with you. And what matters most to you, those two go together, what matters most to you. And if what you have chosen truly resonates with you, on a very deep level, because that is the guiding light, the guiding premise of in my opinion, the choices you need to make for yourself, is how does it feel for you, internally, do you feel connected to it in each area that you've chosen is it in alignment with your values. And if you look at it from a career perspective, and you go for a job, and you say to yourself, what matters most to me, when I go into this organization, a lot of people don't do that, and they take a job, and then the culture doesn't work, or the management doesn't work. Certain elements don't work, because they haven't really defined in any great detail of what matters most to you, before you went into that particular situation. So, in each area of your life, my suggestion is take some time to look at what matters most to you and why. And then begin to put your life together through the choices that you make. From that list from that place, that you have taken time to put together to understand where it is that you would like to end up at any certain moment of time in your life.

Linton Bergsen 12:21

Now, of course over periods of time, this will change what you decide to look at what matters most at 20 is not going to look the same as what matters most to you at 30, or 40, or 50, or 60. So this is an ongoing exercise that we look at in our lives and be cognizant of, because if we lose track of it, we're going to go off track. And it's very easy to lose that center place of what matters most to me, and why and why am I doing it from every area, because that Wheel of Life is a circle for a reason. And it's like any wheel. If that wheel gets out of balance for any reason, it knocks off the way that you successfully roll down the pathway of your life. Now, it's never going to be perfect. That is not the suggestion. We're looking at something that is changeable and ongoing in your life that you are looking to constantly be aware of and adapt. And adaptability is a very, very important cornerstone of constantly being aware of adjusting what matters most to you and why? And not being fearful to make those adjustments. Because if we let fear, which is a normal thing, and I understand that control, and this is the operative word control our decisions, we are doomed before we start. Because in that mindset, if we were to etch out something that matters most to us and why we may think it's ridiculous, we may think that I cannot say or do that. But you can because you are you. And again, if it's resonating with you don't put it aside, it's resonating for a reason. Things don't resonate randomly. Things resonate for a reason, two Rs resonate and reason. And you can rely on that as a guiding path to your life. And if you were to allow yourself to just go with that, that means the most to you that matters the most to you. And you know why? And open minded enough to follow that path and not allow other people to influence you off of that one way or another. And look at it from the perspective of, I am willing to experiment with what resonates with me. And what matters most to me in my life. And I know why. Because I know my values. I'm doing that work. I've dedicated time to my own personal development. That's a choice I made in what matters most to me. And you can look at what personal development you'd ever like to have in your life and participate in there are many options. But you know what road you're going down and have the willingness to experiment to see what possible outcomes are there for you. I would strongly, strongly suggest to you run the experiment. Go down that road, what matters most to you. Don't be influenced by other people. Follow your resonance to your own destiny. And you will be absolutely shocked and surprised at not only what you can accomplish, but how good you feel about yourself. I sincerely appreciate you listening to the podcast, please subscribe so you do not miss any upcoming episodes. Whatever platform you're on, please leave a rating and review. I would greatly appreciate it. Any additional information on me Linton Bergsen and my five-star reviewed book, Purposeful Vision is available at Selfrealized.com which is all one word. You can also leave any comments or suggestions on the website. I look forward to connecting with you very soon and take good care of yourself.

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Linton Bergsen 00:00

Welcome to the Selfrealized podcast with Linton Bergsen, where you will shatter your limits. I am not much into the Self Help industry, as much as I am into the Self Realized individual, which is you, what matters most to you, how you get there, and the obstacles that may be in your way. If you would like to be part of this podcast, and part of that discussion, I welcome you here with an open heart, open mind and open arms. So, without further ado, let's get on with the podcast.

Linton Bergsen 00:44

Welcome to the Selfrealized podcast, shatter your limits. I am Linton Bergsen. And this is episode two, Knowing the Power of Influence, and what that really means to you in your life, and how that affects the outcome of all your decisions that you make. And influence is something that we don't always look at, from the perspective of getting from where we are to where we want to be, and how that manifests in reality to us. Because we are influenced all the time by so many things. So, if I asked you, what is influencing you, and you were to make a list, what would be your major influences, and who would be your major influences, there's what and there's a who? And both of those are playing on you consciously and subconsciously, all day long, 365 days of the year. And it is not something that we're always conscious of, because a lot of it is subliminal, it's subconscious. It can even sometimes border on manipulation. Some people want to manipulate us, they want to influence us to do things that will be best for them. In turn that affects you, because you are now buying into their paradigm of what's important to them. If you make a list of everything that is influencing you, starting with, as I mentioned earlier, with what is influencing you, that list may start out with the books, you read the music, you listen to places you go, movies you watch, celebrities that you like, technology you are involved with, social media platforms, of course, your workplace culture, and your workplace leadership. Now, that's a suggestion for what is influencing you. And then you can start another list of who is influencing you? And you can refer back to the what list, for example, and choose workplace leadership and identify who in the workplace leadership is influencing you, then you have parents as a suggestion, which friends influence you. And then on both lists you may want to consider is the influence positive or negative. And when you begin to write things down, you begin to clarify things in your own mind, and change begins to happen. Then you start another list as to why are these influences present in your life. And you begin to break it down. And you begin to look at these things from the perspective of what, who, and why. And when you begin to dissect the what, who and why are the influences in your life, you begin to get a roadmap as to how you can begin to navigate through this maze of the subliminal, the subconscious influences that are brought to bear upon us because if we don't make a list. And we're not aware of what is influencing us and why. Then we buy into it from the perspective of it's just a reaction. And we don't want to be reacting in our life, we want to be acting on our life. So, we can separate these things out by having a clear understanding of why, what and who are the influences in our lives. If you can get that really clear in your own mind, you can begin to break down where you want to go in your life, and who and what and why you want certain influences to help you get there. And in episode one, we discussed what matters most. So, if you have managed to list out there what matters most to you, then the only way you're going to bring that into fruition in reality is by not letting negative influences deter you from getting what matters most to you accomplished. There are many things that have to be in place to make everything happen in your life and you begin, to segment them out incrementally for you to have success in where you would like to go. The most important factor in this discussion, suggestion that I'm making to you about influence that usually is not discussed in any great manner, or in any great detail is, you are the biggest influencer

Linton Bergsen 05:25

on your life, it's an internal place that exists within you, that allows you to dictate what influences come to bear upon you. I would like to make a suggestion to you about one of the most powerful influences in your life, it can and will change the course of your life if you allow it. And it is unique to you, no one else can bring this influence to bear upon your life and the power that it has except you. There is no one on this planet that could control this, it's given to you as a gift, it is something that you own, it is something that if you apply it, adhere to it, takes you down a pathway in a road to bigger dreams and accomplishment than you could ever imagine. And there it is, your imagination. And I'm going to give you a couple of quotes from Albert Einstein, who is famous for devising his Theory of Relativity, which revolutionized our understanding of space, time, gravity. And the entire universe, this what he said, "Your imagination is the preview to your life's coming events. What you cannot imagine, you cannot discover". So, think on that for a moment, if your imagination is the preview to your life's coming events. And Albert Einstein understood that. And he revolutionized our understanding of space time and the entire universe. What could you do in your own universe, in your own personal world in your own personal universe, if you understood that concept, and applied it on an everyday basis, as a life guiding tool, your imagination is the preview to your life's coming events. And here is the beauty of this influence on your life, your imagination influencing how you act, and how your life will turn out for you is that if you don't like your current preview, and what you're seeing, and the previews that you're playing back in your mind's eye of the way things are going, you can change it. Because it's just like making a movie at any moment, you can edit out what you don't want, and replace it with what you do want in your life. So, you can look at it from the perspective of if you went back to the list of what, who and why is influencing in your life, and you want to make changes. You can do that at any time, based upon what your imagination is suggesting that you do with your life. So, your influences are congruent with what your imagination is suggesting you do with your life. And understanding imagination is very important because it's not a logical thing. It's something that comes to you as a vision. And following a vision is a very, very important aspect of our lives. Because I'm going to quote you from Steve Jobs bringing a little bit more into the present time. And this is a quote that he has, "If you are working on something exciting, that you really care about. You don't have to be pushed. The vision pulls you it's an energy it pulls you" and that's Steve Jobs. So, vision and imagination are partners, there interchangeable because really, it is seeing something that hasn't manifested into reality at the moment. But that's a gift given to you from whatever source you choose to believe, these internal guiding forces come to us. You can call it whatever you like, but it's unique to you and you can't deny the fact that you are a unique individual, and you will be given a unique vision. As Steve Jobs was, as Einstein was as various people throughout life who had fulfilling lives and done things, not only for themselves, but for the greater good of humanity as well. But you're going to be given that as an individual, unique vision to you. The question is, are you going to allow yourself to be influenced by it and act on it? Or are you going to allow other people to influence you away from it

Linton Bergsen 10:26

based upon your who, what or why list, and the influences they are bringing to bear upon you, when you suggest that you see something that you would like to pursue. Now, the beautiful thing about imagination is that it allows you to begin to run experiments in your life, to bring this imagination to fruition, which means you are now going on a pathway of self-discovery. And going further into that self realized state about what you can and cannot accomplish. Now, the benefits of that are huge, because now when you move forward in your life pursuing this imagination, pursuing that which is unique to you, looking at it from the lens of this is something I need to do for my well-being. And don't let that lens get out of focus. Keep it sharp, keep adjusting the lens, so you keep seeing it clearly, in your mind's eye. And moving forward one step at a time, one day at a time towards that. What happens is the influence on that on your central nervous system and you as the being, you will find that there is a change in you about how you feel about you. And then exponentially what happens is, is that we find that we are carrying ourselves differently in the world. Because executing something that comes to you, from an internal place from a source of creation, and having the confidence to do that allows you to build confidence in you and what you're capable of. And that's going to influence you and your own personal power down the road as to what you can continue to do and accomplish. So let your imagination roam in you let it begin to percolate. Allow it. See what previews as Einstein said, begin to come up and then you will use that magic language, which again is influencing language, it is self-talk, which again, is influence on you what you say, what you do, what you see, how you act, are all important ingredients in baking this cake that has everything that you need to pull it out of the oven to show the world and say, look what I did. And that breeds confidence. And confidence in itself is an influencer. When you walk into a room and you walk into that room with confidence, people respond to that as a magnetic energy. It influences people to work with you, to give you financing, to be around you. And leadership has to have confidence and that's your own personal leadership. But we go back into this place of how does that ball begin to roll down the hill? Well, if you do have something that you feel you can do, it's a vision, it's part of your imagination, you begin to execute it. And you allow positive influences to allow you to bring that into manifestation. If you look on your who list of influences, for example, are there people on that list who you know, could influence you and help you in a positive way to bring your vision, your imagination into fruition. And then you want to look also at your list that you put together earlier about who you may not want around going forward as you begin to come into your own personal self realized power of executing that special gift that you are given that nobody else has of imagination, and I put vision together in there of what you can do because don't forget, when you say to someone, I can see myself doing this. It's because you can and again that is a language of ownership. And once you see yourself doing it, don't let someone else talk you out of what they see you doing, that's a very dangerous place to live. No, I see myself doing this, can you help me, and then you move forward, one day at a time, one step at a time. Your influence on yourself is your most powerful friend.

Linton Bergsen 15:23

And as you begin to realize that you influence the outcome of your life, you influence who you have in your life. Positive or negative, you go down the road that you feel is best for you. Influence others positively on your journey and let them influence you positively on your journey. Now you have a symbiotic energy working in your life and a flow begins to occur. So, my suggestion is, understand and know the power of influence, and how you can make it work for you in your life. I sincerely appreciate you listening to the podcast, please subscribe so you do not miss any upcoming episodes. Whatever platform you're on, please leave a rating and review. I would greatly appreciate it. Any additional information on me Linton Bergsen and my five-star reviewed book, Purposeful Vision is available at Selfrealized.com Which is all one word. You can also leave any comments or suggestions on the website. I look forward to connecting with you very soon and take good care of yourself.